Welcome back, friends!
Today, I want to talk about marriage.
It’s also a lot of work. Seriously. All relationships are. You wouldn’t think marriage would be much different than before. Especially if you lived together beforehand. Perhaps it isn’t really. Yet at the same time, it is. I know I’m not making any sense. But hang in there.
Michael and I have been married for almost ten months. We’ve been together for almost ten years. In that amount of time, we have grown together, worked together, possibly even hated each other, still, we held on. We came to many points in our relationship when we had to stop and ask ourselves as individuals what we wanted. Sometimes our goals and dreams didn’t coincide. Was it worth losing each other over the “what ifs” that may never come to fruition? A firm and resounding NO! And so we continued to build our life together.
Then, Michael asked me to marry him., bless him. We forged ahead through the perilous obstacle called “the engagement.” More on that later. 🙂
Finally, the day came when we vowed to love one another forever and always. Suddenly, marriage happened. This beautiful thing was created in the space of a thirty minute ceremony. Every second of our lives had led us down that aisle, so that we would become man and wife. Forever. For a lifetime. Eternity.
I had known that Michael was my soul mate since the moment I met him. I had no reservations at any point leading up to or during the ceremony. Then…BAM! Afterwards, the colossal, life-altering, ginormous reality of it hit. Forever. Lifetime. Eternity. That’s when the commitment scared me. A little late, I know. Commitment was staring me in the eyes in the form of my new husband. Men get cold feet. I got the oh-my-gosh-I-am-going-to-spend-the-rest-of-my-hopefully-long-life-with-this-one-man feet.
It left me breathless. It was scary and exciting all at once! After the initial shock, because that is definitely what that was, I wrapped myself in the feeling of being Michael’s wife. And enjoyed the realization that Michael was my husband. I felt this confidence that overwhelmed me. I knew that Michael would always love me, that I had a partner and teammate to walk through all of life’s trials with. Of course, I felt this before, but having a husband amplified these feelings.
Our relationship was strong before, but now it’s the strongest it’s ever been. Marriage frees you, it does not bind you. It allows you, as a couple, to experience so many new levels of intimacy that are remarkable.
Marriage takes a lot of work… but it is so worth the effort!
Thanks for reading! Come back on Saturday for the next post!
Now, my friends, I’ll leave you with one of my favorites quotes:
Have a lovely evening,